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Hotter Than Ever Episodes

June 13, 2024

Why We Need Adult Sex Ed with Dr. Kelly Casperson 

For many women who’ve never had an orgasm, it’s easy to feel like there’s something wrong or that they’re broken, a sentiment shared by many of Dr. Kelly Casperson’s patients. However, as urologist and star podcaster Dr. Casperson explains in our latest episode, the issue isn’t with women—it’s our lack of good sex education. This lack hinders women’s ability to experience pleasure, which is why over 10% of women report never having had an orgasm. Join us as Erin and Dr. Casperson guide you through your own adult sex ed class, busting myths about female sexuality, diving into hormonal balance, discussing how to express your sexual needs, and showing you how to reclaim your sexual health and well-being at any age.

June 11, 2024

Advice: Should I Give This Guy a Second Chance? 

Getting your needs met is hot. What’s not hot is when your emotional or physical needs (or both!) are neglected.  One listener is grappling with this issue, questioning whether to give a man a second chance after a real first date fail, especially as she navigates dating after a sexless marriage.

In this episode, Erin is drawing from her own experiences and shares the importance of prioritizing our own needs and self-worth in casual dating, and to avoid settling for less than you deserve. 

June 6, 2024

How to Feel Less Exhaustion and More Joy with Victoria Albina 

“It's only when we come into the body that we can start to see our thoughts.”

In the age of the internet and social media, we're constantly bombarded with pseudoscientific wellness trends that promise quick fixes for every aspect of our mental well-being. Beneath the noise, there exists a grounded, science-based, and holistic approach to wellness, exemplified by Victoria Albina. Victoria is a family nurse practitioner, breathwork meditation guide, life coach, and host of the "Feminist Wellness Podcast." Her mission is to empower women to become their own best healers, enabling them to break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, and to reclaim their joy. 

June 4, 2024

How I Learned to Flirt 

Are you a natural flirt, or do you consider yourself clueless when it comes to flirting or recognizing when you’re being flirted with? Our host Erin has experienced the entire spectrum, from being oblivious to flirting—both as a single and married woman—to embracing it as a powerful form of self-expression and connection post-divorce. In this episode, Erin shares how flirting has transformed the little moments in her life, whether she’s at Trader Joe’s or the DMV, making her feel more alive, seen, and engaged with the world.

Join us for fun stories and advice on letting your own light shine through flirting,

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May 30, 2024

Choosing Mediation over Divorce When You Know It's Over with Paulette Rigo

Half of marriages these days end in divorce, but did you know that 73% of divorces are initiated by women? In today’s episode we’re joined by Paulette Rigo, a credentialed private mediator and certified divorce coach, whose mission is to help couples avoid court and navigate their divorces more amicably.  Paulette endured a grueling divorce litigation process that spanned nearly 10 years. Now, she is determined to use the insights from her experience to ensure no one else gets trapped in a similar situation. Join us as Erin and Paulette take an honest and hard look at the evolving landscape of marriage and divorce for women in midlife, offering a compassionate and comprehensive guide to navigating divorce.

May 28, 2024

'The Idea of You' is Midlife Rom Com Candy

“Thank God for representations of real sex on screen.”

 

A 40-year-old woman and an unbelievably hot 24-year-old man get together for an unexpected, steamy romance? Sign us up! It’s no wonder why everyone has been asking Erin what she thinks of the new movie “The Idea of You”, released earlier this year. In this episode, Erin breaks down the film and shares her thoughts on why this story, and the representation of romance between an older woman and a younger man, matters in today’s cultural landscape.

 

Join us as we explore the emotional truths the film reveals about love, vulnerability, and the enduring allure of a good love story.

May 23, 2024

How To Have Hot Sex for Life with Susan Bratton 

It’s no secret that many women don’t enjoy having sex. But the problem isn’t the women: it’s the sex we’re shown in the media and porn, which is dominated by patriarchal ideas and largely ignores women's pleasure. Amidst this dearth of sexual satisfaction for women emerges Susan Bratton, an intimacy expert and advocate for lifelong intimacy and passion. Susan has helped countless clients and readers of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion, proving that we can all embody being Hotter Than Ever. In today’s episode, Susan shares her valuable insights on transforming sexual experiences, maintaining sexual health and enjoyment as we age, embracing authenticity in intimate relationships, and more.

May 21, 2024

Vulnerability Is So Hard!

“I am willing to take on the uncomfortable feelings that it takes to be vulnerable. Are you?”

When you’ve been raised as a fiercely independent Gen X-er and have been hurt by men in relationships (who hasn’t?), everything tells you not to be vulnerable. But in reflecting on her personal journey post-divorce, Erin shares how her efforts to become more emotionally open have transformed her relationships. In this episode, Erin is renewing her commitment to break free from old patterns and embrace vulnerability, even if it means facing discomfort and potential heartbreak. Whether you’ve had your heart broken or have built up emotional defenses over the years, this episode is a reminder that vulnerability is not a weakness but a strength. 

May 16, 2024

You're Not Too F***ing Old! with Jen Marples 

When Jen Marples found herself unable to muster the energy to get out of bed, it was a stark wake-up call. A true go-getter, she had carved out a stellar career in marketing and PR, even launching her own thriving business, all while married with three children. Yet, amidst all of the success and achievements, she realized she had neglected one crucial thing: herself. From this moment of realization, Jen embarked on a journey of transformation, emerging as a beacon of empowerment for women navigating midlife.

 

In this episode, Jen shares insights on reclaiming identity and rediscovering purpose in midlife for women. 

May 14, 2024

My 52 Year Old Body 

What is your relationship like with your body? Feeling disconnected from our bodies is a common experience, and in today's digital age, it's often exacerbated by the constant barrage of fitness fads and wellness trends flooding our feeds. But as we navigate midlife, ignoring our bodies becomes less of an option. In this episode, Erin dives deep into her own journey of body rediscovery at 52. 

 

From childhood struggles with weight to a disconnected relationship with her physical self in adulthood, Erin shares the pivotal moments that sparked her radical reinvention. Join us as we explore the tough questions about body image, self-care, and well-being, and uncover actionable steps to embrace a freer, happier, healthier life

May 9, 2024

Are You Wired to Love a Narcissist? with Michelle Roberts PhD

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship with a narcissist? Or maybe you were raised by one? Whatever the relationship might be, there’s a chance that it’s left a neurological impact on that is going untreated. In today’s episode, we’re joined by Michelle Roberts, investigative journalist turned psychotherapist, who specializes in narcissism. Michelle’s work helps to unravel the mysteries behind why some women are attracted to narcissists, the toll it takes on our emotional well-being, and most importantly, the path to healing. Join Erin and Michelle as they provide a roadmap for navigating the complexities of relational trauma and actionable ways to treat it so that we can live our best lives

May 7, 2024

Surviving Singles Events IRL 

“I want you to take action towards what you fantasize about.”

On Hotter Than Ever, we've delved deep into the world of online dating, including strategies for crafting the perfect profile and navigating the digital landscape of romance. But what about the lost art of meeting people the old-fashioned way–in real life?

 

In this episode, Erin shares her experience stepping outside of her comfort zone and attending two in-person events: a LA matchmaking mixer and a BDSM munch. From navigating awkward encounters to unexpected connections, Erin explores the nuances of stepping out from behind the screen to meet people face-to-face,

May 2, 2024

Lonely At Work? How to Build Community and Connection with Ann Shoket

“Loneliness is the thing that's keeping women from rising and I don't want to see that anymore.”

 

Ann Shoket, CEO of The Li.st, is on a mission to combat the loneliness epidemic for women in the workplace and foster community and connection so that women can show up as their full selves. Join us for an empowering conversation, as Erin and Ann discuss redefining traditional notions of power, embracing vulnerability, and offer actionable strategies for women to cultivate connections and reclaim agency in their professional lives

April 30, 2024

Advice: How Do I Make Time for a Sexual Awakening As A Single Mom? 

“You can be a good mom who is available to your kids and who is also experiencing a sexual becoming.”

Starting your sexual awakening journey in midlife can sometimes feel like threading through a maze of practicalities, particularly if you're juggling kids and career. Luckily, Erin is here to take the reins, drawing from her firsthand experience, to guide us through.  From treating her romantic life as a part-time job to embracing solo polyamory with transparency and honesty, Erin offers practical advice on making room for pleasure amidst the demands of parenting and modern life.

April 25, 2024

Sexual Coming of Age in the 90s with Tracy Clark-Flory

In her memoir, "Want Me" Tracy Clark-Flory details her personal sexual coming of age through the maze hyper-sexualized media, where she grappled with the conflicting messages dictating her sexual identity. It wasn't until her tenure as a sex journalist and the dawn of deeper relationships that she unearthed a profound truth: there's no universal formula for male desire. This revelation sparked a profound shift, leading her to prioritize her own sexual fulfillment. 

 

Join Erin and Tracy for a conversation spanning the portrayal of sexuality in media to the complexities of sexual experiences, including orgasms and the performance of desire,

April 23, 2024

Advice: What Do I Do If I Can't Get Divorced For Logistical Reasons?

Sometimes women get stuck in a marriage that is no longer working, but they’re unable to break free due to logistical constraints.  Add a skyrocketing libido and an irresistible crush into the mix, and today’s caller has got herself one h*ll of a scenario. Fear not, because in this episode, we dive into the art of juggling desire and commitment when divorce isn't an immediate option.

 

Join Erin as she offers candid insights and guidance, illuminating the path towards personal liberation and fulfillment within the confines of marriage,

April 18, 2024

How to Really Feel Your Feelings and Heal From Grief with Meghan Riordan Jarvis

With more than two decades as a seasoned psychotherapist, Meghan Riordan Jarvis found herself unexpectedly thrust into the throes of her own grief upon the sudden loss of her mother. Through this profound personal journey, Meghan gained an intimate understanding of the very trauma and PTSD she had long treated in her patients. Now, with her podcast "Grief is My Side Hustle" and the bestselling book "The End of The Hour", Meghan is on a mission to foster a culture more attuned to the nuances of grief. In this episode, Meghan and Erin delve into the intricate layers of loss, highlighting the necessity of processing grief. 

April 16, 2024

Advice: Dating Again After a Bad Breakup - What Do I Need to Share About It?

Breakups are universally painful, regardless of the circumstances. And after a long-term relationship, it can be daunting to dip your toes back into the dating pool. In today’s episode, we’re tackling a listener's question about reentering the dating scene after a challenging breakup. With a decade-long relationship behind them, our listener grapples with how to discuss the breakup with others, while being respectful of their ex’s mental health issues.

 

Join us as Erin dives into the complexities of navigating post-breakup dating. From acknowledging the pain of a breakup to reclaiming agency in sharing personal narratives

April 11, 2024

How To Buy Essentially Nothing with

Elizabeth Chai 

You've heard the advice to "buy less" or "consume mindfully," but have you ever considered going cold turkey on buying altogether? As she chronicles in her book, "How to Buy Essentially Nothing for a Year,” Elizabeth Chai, a graphic designer by trade, did just that. For the past five years, Liz has refrained from purchasing anything non-essential, and she's here to share how this decision has brought her newfound freedom from trends and a deeper appreciation for what’s right in front of her.

In this episode, Liz unpacks her decision to abstain from buying, debunking the misconception that minimalism means living in a stark, white box. 

April 9, 2024

Advice: Help! I'm SO Distracted By Sexy Apps (But I Love It)!

Are using dating apps the modern-day equivalent of juggling a part-time job? For one of our listeners, the allure of Pure, a sexting app, has sparked both a whirlwind of fun and distraction that begs the question: How long will it last? Join Erin on this episode as she delves into the tantalizing world of digital intimacy, sharing her own experiences with and a myriad of dating apps.

From anonymous sexting with zero stakes to setting boundaries and embracing validation, Erin offers candid insights from her experiences on managing attention and fulfillment in the realm of online connections.

April 4, 2024

Dishing About Domestic Labor with Eve Rodsky

When Eve Rodsky received a text from her husband that read, “I'm surprised you didn't get blueberries”, it sparked a revelation. It wasn't just about the fruit; it was about the deeper imbalance in their household dynamics. Fast forward over a decade, and Eve has emerged as a leading voice in reshaping the gender division of labor. With two groundbreaking books under her belt – “Fair Play” and “Find Your Unicorn Space” – Eve's mission is clear: to revolutionize how partners share the burden of domestic responsibilities, ensuring women no longer shoulder the lion's share of unpaid labor. Join Erin and Eve for as they delve into Eve's journey of creating a gamified system to tackle household inequalities.

March 28, 2024

Rethinking Modern Motherhood & Reclaiming Our Bodies with Amanda Montei

In her illuminating book, "Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, and Control," Amanda Montei dissects the nuanced layers of societal expectations and judgments that surround women's bodies, particularly during motherhood, reminding us to be attentive to the stories that are being told to us.

 

Join us for a deep and fascinating episode as Erin and Amanda delve into the complexities of motherhood, dissecting societal norms, reclaiming bodily autonomy, and advocating for systemic reform.  

March 26, 2024

Advice: How Do I Approach Sex After 33 Years With My Ex-Husband? With Dr. Juliana Hauser

Nothing gets us more excited than witnessing one of our listeners burst back onto the dating scene after a long marriage. Yet, as thrilling as this new chapter may be, it can also come riddled with uncertainties. How can I ensure my safety while exploring new sexual partners? How can I feel confident in my body as an older woman? In this episode, Erin and Dr. Juliana Hauser delve into a question from Amy, a 63-year-old woman venturing back into the dating scene after 33 years of marriage. We uncover practical advice that any woman can embrace to embark on her sexual journey with confidence and enthusiasm.

March 21, 2024

Being a Doctor on Skid Row with Dr. Susan Partovi, Renegade MD 

Since she was a girl, Dr. Susan Partovi felt the pull toward a career in medicine. But it wasn't until a transformative journey to Tijuana, Mexico that her calling took on a deeper meaning, igniting a lifelong commitment to championing the health of marginalized communities. Now, after decades of serving people experiencing homelessness on the streets of Skid Row in Los Angeles, Susan stands as a testament to the vitality and impact of women flourishing in their passions after 40, all while uplifting society's most vulnerable. Join us as we explore the challenges and complexities of addressing homelessness, mental illness, and substance use disorders with raw honesty and insight. 

March 19, 2024

Advice: How Do I Talk About My Sexual Needs? With Dr. Juliana Hauser 

Imagine this: you've just broken free from a decade-long relationship that didn't quite fit, and then you find someone new, someone exciting, and the text messages start heating up. But as you settle into the relationship, you realize your partner isn't quite on the same page when it comes to acting on those steamy promises. How do you navigate this shift in your sexual dynamic? Lucky for us, we have marriage and family therapist and sex educator Dr. Juliana Hauser joining us again on Hotter Than Ever to help tackle our latest listener question. Join Erin and Dr. Juliana as they discuss the importance of clear and unapologetic  communication of sexual needs and desires within relationships.

March 14, 2024

A Comedian's Psychedelic Awakening with Negin Farsad

Like most comedians, Negin Farsad was a self-described skeptic, especially when it came to the trendy world of "magic mushrooms" and psychedelic retreats sweeping the wellness scene. But when a writing assignment led her to participate in a psilocybin retreat, she found herself on a transformative path she never expected.

In this captivating episode, Negin shares her initial doubts and ultimate revelations as she delves into the world of psychedelics. What began as a journalistic endeavor quickly evolved into a deeply profound experience, challenging Negin to confront past traumas and rediscover and forgive herself in unexpected ways. 

March 12, 2024

Advice: Mushrooms for Anxiety and Menopause? With Tracey Tee

Have you ever wondered about the therapeutic potential of psilocybin or "magic mushrooms" for treating anxiety or menopause? In today's advice episode, we're thrilled to welcome back Tracey Tee, the founder of "Moms on Mushrooms" (M.O.M), to tackle our latest listener inquiry. Tracey sheds light on why women are turning to microdosing mushrooms to address anxiety and menopause. In a world where conventional treatments often fall short, Tracy is empowering women to chart a new course, reclaiming their inner selves and navigating their “third act” with agency and grace.

March 7, 2024

Chasing Physical Pain and Discovering Tenderness with Margo Steines 

In a time where many of us find ourselves disconnected from our bodies, Margo Steines relentlessly chased physical pain. As she recalls in her gripping memoir “Brutalities: A Love Story”, Margo pursued extreme experiences—drugs, sexual violence, and abusive relationships—as avenues to escape psychological discomfort and to feel alive.

Throughout this episode, Margo shares her ever-evolving relationship with her body from working as a professional dominatrix, to an ironworker, and later as a writer and mother, the latter of which revolutionized her relationship with her body.

March 5, 2024

Advice: What To Do When Your Boyfriend Dumps You 

In this episode we’re giving advice to none other than Hotter Than Ever. Yes, you read that correctly. When Erin found herself blindsided by the sudden end of her relationship with her boyfriend, “The Marine”, she knew she had to open up about the experience, no matter how raw the pain. For anyone facing the aftermath of a significant breakup, this is your reminder that healing and moving forward are possible, even in the midst of heartache.

Join us for a heartfelt and vulnerable episode, as Erin shares the story of how (and why) her relationship ended, and tangible advice for how to get over the first breakup after divorce.

February 29, 2024

Cindy Gallop's Vision for a Safe, Sexy Internet

Cindy Gallop's MakeLoveNotPorn is the world's first and only user-generated and 100% human-curated social sex video sharing platform, whose mission is to promote good sexual behavior and good sexual values by showing real people having safe, healthy, consensual sex. The platform is blazing the trail for female-built and mission-driven businesses, and the need to create more safe and inclusive online and real-world experiences for us all.

In this episode, Erin and Cindy engage in a thought-provoking conversation around the intersection of sex, business, and the important role of women in shaping the future of the Internet. 

February 27, 2024

Listener Mail:  How Do I Stay Safe While Dating (and More)?

Picture this: you’re 50, newly separated from your husband after 20 years of marriage, and diving into the world of casual dating and sex. How do you navigate sex safely as an older woman in the new world of dating app culture? You’ve come to the right place. In this week’s advice episode, we’re discussing our favorite topic: sex—how to talk about it with potential partners and how to navigate it safely when getting back out there. 

 

Join Erin as she offers her subjective POV on the ups and downs of post-divorce dating and shares practical tips and insights from her personal experiences.

February 22, 2024

When Your Whole Family Comes Out with Jessi Hempel

Jessi Hempel is many things: an award-winning journalist, podcaster, author, and senior editor-at-large at LinkedIn. But despite her myriad accomplishments, she shies away from labeling herself as ‘successful’. For Jessi, her illustrious career as a technology and business journalist was always a stepping stone on the path to her childhood dream of writing a book. However, after the publication of her memoir, "The Family Outing," Jessi found herself facing an existential quandary: what comes next after you achieve your ultimate goal? In this episode, Jessi takes the helm as we navigate through diverse topics.

February 20, 2024

Listener Mail: Looking for a New Life in New England 

“If you get to the root of what it is that you care about, you will probably also find a path to meaningful work.”

 

Ever found yourself at a crossroads, wondering what’s next after already pursuing your professional dreams? In this week's advice-packed episode, we're delving into the daunting, yet exhilarating realm of career transitions. Whether you're eyeing a shift in industries or skill sets, especially later in life, the roadmap to your next chapter starts within.

 

Let Erin be your compass as she unpacks practical strategies for deciphering your next career move.

February 15, 2024

How Gen X is Taking on Menopause with Stacy London

Today we're sharing an incredible conversation with TV icon, Stacy London. You probably remember Stacy from TLC’s “What Not to Wear” where she turned fashion faux pas into fabulous looks and boosted self-esteem week after week. Now, she's shining a spotlight on menopause and women's health in midlife–topics long overlooked in both media and medical circles. Stacy's mission is crystal clear: it's time to rewrite the story on women and aging. Join Stacy and Erin for an engaging and informative conversation on the intersection of perimenopause, menopause, aging, sexuality, and women’s health.

February 13, 2024

Listener Mail: How Do I Get Over My Fear of Rejection and Be More Authentic?

We all want to be the most authentic versions of ourselves, but how do we overcome the fear of judgment, criticism, and rejection that’s holding us back? In today’s advice episode, we hear from a listener who is struggling to share her true self without reservation.

 

Drawing from Erin’s personal experiences with corporate life, divorce, and unexpected layoffs, she shares poignant insights that helped her embrace a liberating self-expression. The takeaway: no matter how daunting it may seem, authenticity always triumphs. 

February 8, 2024

Getting Comfortable with Uncomfortable Transitions

“Just because I'm uncomfortable with discomfort, it doesn't mean I'm not okay.”

 

Ever been laid off? Experienced the gut-wrenching dissolution of a relationship? Or maybe you're just grappling with the uncertainty of what comes next in your career or love life. Whatever the case, Erin's here to remind you that amidst these difficult transitions lies a world of potential–we just need to trust the process. Join us as Erin shares her insights on navigating upheaval, embracing uncertainty, and finding beauty in the messy middle of change. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, discover how to thrive amidst life's twists and turns.

February 6, 2024

Listener Mail: How Can I Control My Mood And Not Be Affected By The Actions of Others?

“I made it worse because I was not the master of my emotions.”

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where someone hits that emotional button you never knew existed? Did you end up regretting something you said or did in the heat of the moment? We've all been there. In today’s advice episode, we’re delving into a listener's question on how to control one’s mood and avoid being swayed by others’ actions. Join us as Erin shares a recent personal story on the challenges of navigating relationships and emotions, along with tips for controlling how you can respond in the heat of the moment. 

February 1, 2024

Claiming Your Sexual Power in Midlife with Eva Clay

Eva Clay is on a mission to make sex a spiritual practice. With two decades of expertise, Eva has helped countless women defy the misconception that perimenopause and menopause mark the end of a woman's sexuality. In this riveting conversation, discover how midlife can unfold as a magnificent era of sexual exploration, fostering healthier, empowered, and fulfilled lives. Get ready for an insightful and passionate exchange between Eva and Erin as they not only express their profound appreciation for embracing sexuality, but also delve into the biological benefits of menopause and the intricate relationship between sex and spirituality.

January 30, 2024

Listener Mail: How Do I Start Dating Again After 60?

“Change is often uncomfortable and is almost always good.”

 

Today, we’re delving into a topic near and dear to our hearts: reentering the dating scene. This week, our hot listener is looking for Erin’s top three tips for women over 60 venturing back into dating. While the prospect of dating again may be uncomfortable, Erin is your trusty guide to transform this experience into a golden opportunity for self-discovery and, of course, a bit of fun. Join us as Erin shares her essential tips for navigating the dating landscape during this exciting phase of life.

January 25, 2024

Dildocon 2024 or I Went to a Pleasure Conference So You Don't Have To

“I am dedicated to having experiences that are aligned with my curiosity,”

 

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to attend a sex conference? Erin did the daring deed so that you wouldn’t have to. In this episode, Erin takes us on the wild ride that was attending the Vibe Expo, a trade show dedicated to sensory exploration, pleasure, play things, sensual ecstasy, and intimacy insights. Although it sounds right up Erin’s alley (and it is), it was still a step outside of her comfort zone. From Tiki-themed sex toys to BDSM gear, she shares the craziest highlights and the unexpected rewards

January 23, 2024

Listener Mail: How Do I Age Gracefully?

“We need to revise our imagery of what elderhood looks like.”

In today’s episode, we’re tackling two hot listener questions around how to balance aging gracefully, while also looking youthful and attractive. We dive into the age-old debate: should we use Botox, plastic surgery and hair dye to keep looking young? Or do we embrace the full force of natural aging, wrinkles, gray hair, and all?  For Erin, it’s all about doing whatever makes you feel like the best version of yourself. Whether your version of sexy is getting a boob lift or letting your hair go full silver fox: you do you.

January 18, 2024

Besties for Life: The Power of Female Friendship

“Female friends are treasures and they hold a mirror to one another in a way that no one else can.”  Do you have that ride-or-die friend who's witnessed your every transformation throughout years? That friend who will stay by your side and be supportive, loving, and nonjudgmental no matter the new paths you’re exploring? For our host Erin, that friend has been Amber Rickert—a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and trauma specialist and also Erin’s best friend for the past 30 years. This engaging conversation delves into the profound aspects of female friendships, and the supportive and nonjudgmental role they play in one another's lives. 

January 16, 2024

Listener Mail: How Soon is Too Soon?

“Is it possible to mostly grieve your marriage before it ends?”

In today’s episode, we’re tackling a listener question that Erin knows all too well: how soon is too soon to start dating after divorce? While some people in our listener’s corner have been telling her to give it time because it’s only been six months, she knew long before then that the marriage was over. Plus, there was no sex for the last year and a half. Tune in for Erin’s advice based on navigating a very similar situation, and why post-divorce the perfect time to embrace your newfound freedom and play the field, but keep it light.

January 11, 2024

New Year Reset: Seeking Your Spark in 2024 

“There's so much more in life on the other side of discomfort.”

We’re kicking this week off by discussing New Year’s resolutions. Not the clichés that fall by the wayside as quickly as they’ve started, but commitments that can lead to genuine growth and fulfillment. While each of us is constantly evolving and changing every day of our lives, there’s something special about taking time to reflect on how we want to change going forward and getting clarity on our roadmap for the future. Join Erin as she shares her 2024 goals.

January 4, 2024

Listener Mail: Am I Being “Aged Out” Of My Job? 

“The money is the indicator of how much they care about keeping you.” Today, we’re unpacking one listener’s corporate dilemma. She’s a seasoned tech professional who’s always been a top-performer, but recently found herself with no bonus or salary increase this year. Is she being pushed toward the door? Is it age bias? If corporate life has expired for us, how do we find the courage to opt-out of the bullshit? Tune in as Erin shares her POV from many years in the corporate world, including the importance of following the money, asking the right questions, and letting your intuition guide you to your next steps.

January 2, 2024

Listener Mail: High School Flame Reignited

“How do I keep his interest without scaring him away?” Happy 2024 Hotties! We’re so excited to bring you our first (ever!) advice episode! Informed by her very subjective POV and life experience (as opposed to actual expertise) each week Erin addresses your questions and quandaries on everything from love, to sex, relationships, career, aging, ambition, divorce, and more!  In this episode we’re diving into a hot listener question about maintaining interest in a rekindled high school romance, post-divorce. Tune in as Erin shares her advice for success, including honest self-expression, clear communication, and letting go of what you can’t control.

December 28, 2023

Adapting to Big Changes in Midlife with Humorist Annabelle Gurwitch

“Could I have a bigger imagination about this point in my life than I thought I might need to have?” Annabelle Gurwitch is no stranger to reinvention–or as she prefers to call it, adaptation. As an actress and TV show host turned best-selling author, she understands the importance of embracing change in order to shift your life circumstances. In her latest memoir, Annabelle chronicles one of those changes: her decision to welcome an unhoused couple into her home after becoming an empty-nester. This decision not only shifts many of her own beliefs, but also beautifully underscores the importance of discarding preconceived notions at the doorstep of understanding.

December 21, 2023

2023 Hotter Than Ever Year in Review

“How much time do you think you have left?” Posed by friend and episode 6 guest, Sheri Salata, this question became part of Erin’s catalyst to launching Hotter Than Ever in April 2023. Since its inception, this podcast has been dedicated to empowering women to cultivate lives brimming with joy and authenticity. Thirty-six episodes and 25 interviews later, we couldn’t be more grateful for the community that has been built around this mission and the extraordinary conversations with countless incredible women that have followed. As 2023 comes to a close, join Erin as she reflects on the year and shares her top 10 insights from guest conversations. 

December 14, 2023

How to Get Through Your Mid-Life Crisis with Lauren Zander

“I am impressed with the midlife crisis.” We’re thrilled to welcome Lauren Zander, CEO and founder of the Handel Group, back to Hotter Than Ever. As a life coach, Lauren is no stranger to helping her clients navigate through midlife crises. Yet when Lauren experienced a midlife crisis of her own, it rocked her to her core ways that she could have never anticipated. Join us for a candid and introspective conversation as Erin and Lauren share their personal midlife crisis journeys, what they learned in the aftermath, and how they rebuilt their lives and relationships into something more authentic and profound.

December 7, 2023

Boldly Navigating Cancer, Caregiving and Career Change with Laura Stratte

When Laura Stratte was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 35, she didn't just fight it—it transformed her life’s path. Following nursing school, Laura became a superhero of sorts—a nurse navigator—guiding cancer warriors through the tangled mess of the healthcare system, from diagnosis to survivorship. Now in the world of health tech, she’s helping women own their menopause and master their health.

 

In this episode, Erin sits down with Laura to discuss navigating health challenges that so many women find themselves in.

November 30, 2023

How Perfectionism Can Be Positive and Powerful with Katherine Morgan Schafler

“Can you assume that nothing is wrong with you?” Self-defined perfectionist, psychotherapist, writer, and former on-site therapist at Google, Katherine Morgan Schafler wants you to know that it’s ok to be a perfectionist. In her book "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, A Path to Peace and Power,” Katherine challenges the stigma surrounding perfectionism in our culture by defining both its healthy and unhealthy manifestations, exposes its harmful gender biases towards women, and advocates for redefining the call for “balance.”

November 23, 2023

It’s Not Always Sunny: Navigating the 'Dips' with Grace and Gratitude

“This too shall pass.” Being human means understanding that challenging times, as tough as they may be, won’t last forever. It’s the highs and lows, the ebbs and flows that make up our everyday existence. But how do we work through those lows–or as Erin likes to call them, the ‘dips’? In this episode, we navigate the intricate terrain of managing the ‘dips’ – those moments when darkness creeps in and threatens our optimism and resilience. Whether it’s seasonal affective disorder, single parenthood, career demands, or the struggle with self-care and transitions, this episode is your reminder that life isn't always sunshine and roses–and that’s ok. ,

November 16, 2023

Handle Your Money Trauma and Build Wealth like a Grownup with Veronica Grant

There’s nothing hotter than using your finances as the ultimate tool to build the life of your dreams. But how do we get there? On this week’s episode of Hotter Than Ever, we’re joined by Veronica Grant, a financial expert and host of the Run Your Money podcast. Veronica is not your typical financial guru; she's a certified financial wellness consultant who intertwines personal finance wisdom with coaching and a keen awareness of the social and economic systems affecting women's wealth.

 

November 9, 2023

Family Secret Bombshells and Choosing Self-Love with Carmen Rita Wong

Imagine discovering that the man you believed was your dad was not your biological father. What would that do to your sense of self and identity? Carmen Rita Wong lived that reality, and it sparked an electrifying journey of self-discovery that shares in her memoir, "Why Didn't You Tell Me?" Get ready for a rollercoaster of revelations as she uncovers her heritage and answers the age-old question: Who the hell am I?

But Carmen's life isn't just about secrets and ancestry. It's a relentless journey of reinvention in both her personal and professional spheres. 

November 2, 2023

Single Moms! Have a Sex Life! with Writer Rebecca Woolf

“I don’t believe in rules.” Rebecca Woolf is a rule-breaker:  she doesn't believe in following society's cookie-cutter definitions of motherhood. In this unapologetic episode, she takes us on a journey through her life as a mother who fully embraces her sexuality and autonomy. Just like we say at the beginning of each episode, Rebecca has not only broken the rules in her own life, but also found her path to being freer, happier, sexier, and more self-expressed.

 

Rebecca's path to this point is unconventional, and she's here to share every raw, honest, and sexy detail. 

October 26, 2023

Loving Men while Dismantling the Patriarchy with Author Sonora Jha

What would you do if you weren’t afraid of failing? Dr. Sonora Jha., essayist, novelist, and professor of journalism at Seattle University, is the embodiment of this very question. From forsaking math and sciences growing up in Mumbai, to entering the male-dominiated field of journalism, to writing the memoir “How to Raise a Feminist Son'', today’s guest has consistently defied societal expectations. True to her life story, Dr. Jha doesn't mince words. She fearlessly dives into charged topics like 'patriarchy,' 'white supremacy,' and 'the male gaze,' revealing how these forces influence both societal norms and our personal choices. 

 

October 19, 2023

The Lies We Tell Ourselves That Keep Us Stuck with Life Coach Lauren Zander

“What do you think will happen first, world peace or the end of lying?”Lauren Zander, CEO and founder of The Handel Group, was a life coach long before being a life coach was a “thing”. Forget the clichés; Lauren's trademarked coaching technique, the Handel Method, isn't about hand-holding—it's about getting sh*t done. She's taught it at prestigious institutions like MIT and Stanford Business School and counts celebrities, CEOs, and entrepreneurs among her clients.

 

In this episode, Lauren takes the wheel as your personal life coach to expose the truths we're afraid to confront.

October 12, 2023

Making Peace with Divorce and Opening Your Heart To Love

What if you dared to let go of the old to make room for the new? 

 

In today’s episode, Erin gets raw and vulnerable when reflecting on the seismic shifts in her life. From getting a divorce after 17 years of marriage, navigating the maze co-parenting, and the plot twist of finding an unexpected new love. If you've ever found yourself in the midst of a divorce, a crumbling relationship, or a job that sucks the soul out of you, Erin’s got a message: It’s ok to let it go.

October 5, 2023

Manifesting Your Destiny like a Boss with Adult Film Star Lisa Ann

Lisa Ann is a name synonymous with adult film fame, but her journey goes far beyond the screen. She has also been a talent agent, written two books, and is now a radio host for fantasy sports, including the "Lisa Ann Does Fantasy Bettor" show on Youtube. Lisa's story is one of resilience, reinvention, and empowerment. Her ability to navigate two vastly different worlds and emerge as a strong, influential figure is a testament to her determination and unwavering commitment to personal growth. 

September 28, 2023

Using Improv to Get Unstuck and Silence Your Inner Critic with Katie Goodman

Can improv comedy be used as a tool to improve your life? Drawing from her wealth of experience teaching improv to diverse groups, from nuclear physicists to CEOs, award-winning comedian, author, and speaker Katie Goodman demonstrates how the principles of improv can help you live more creatively, spontaneously, and courageously. Whether it’s learning to navigate the unexpected, being present with what’s right in front of us, or silencing your inner critic, Katie’s contagious enthusiasm and practical wisdom prove that there’s so much more that can be gleaned from improv than just making you laugh.

September 21, 2023

Likeability and the Cost of Faking It

Why do we care so much about what others think of us? We've all been there, meticulously curating our lives to be oh-so likable. But guess what? It's time to shed that people-pleasing skin and unleash our unfiltered, unapologetic, and authentic selves. In this episode, our host Erin fearlessly tackles the age-old conundrum of whether you'd rather be liked by everyone (yawn) or adored by those who truly get you. In a culture that breeds chameleons, it’s time to start being the neon unicorn you were born to be.

 

Erin shares laugh-out-loud anecdotes and hard-earned wisdom on why being your authentic self is not just liberating; it's downright magnetic.

September 14, 2023

Can Your Body Reverse Menopause? Science and Hope with Dr. Anna Cabeca

When we say women over 40 are “Hotter Than Ever”, we mean it and so does Dr. Anna Cabeca. As a triple-board certified OBGYN, best selling author, and host of “The Girlfriend Doctor" podcast, Dr. Anna is on a mission to break the stigma that menopause means “it’s all downhill from here” and instead help women reclaim their vibrancy, sexuality, health, and happiness before, during, and after menopause. Through her multi-decade medical career and her own personal experiences, Dr. Anna has not only been able to successfully reverse her own early onset menopause and infertility, but help countless women thrive in this phase of life. 

September 7, 2023

Finding Your Sexual Agency with Sex Therapist Dr. Juliana Hauser

“If you’re breathing, you’re sexual.” Dr. Juliana Hauser is on a mission to connect people with their essence – their truest self – through uncovering, demystifying, and reclaiming their unique sexuality. Through her work as a sex therapist and educator with countless clients, Dr. Juliana has demonstrated how showing up for yourself in the bedroom can help you show up for yourself in EVERY corner of your life.

 

In this episode, Erin and Dr. Juliana strip away societal taboos, inviting you to explore the hidden depths of your desires and rediscover your sexual agency to lead a happier and more fulfilled life.

Aug 31, 2023

The Universe, Spirituality, and Being Woo-Adjacent 

Step into the mystical as we delve into the realm of the "Woo". Erin ponders the enigmatic world of modern spirituality, offering a fresh perspective on astrology, human design, crystals, manifestation, intention setting, mantras, altars, and the belief that everything happens for a reason.

 

Basically, Erin sorts all the bullsh*t that can come with contemporary interpretations of these practices, so you don’t have to. And once the dust settles, it becomes clear the power these tools can hold in helping us show up as our best selves each day and in savoring the present.

Aug 24, 2023

Moms on Mushrooms Creator Tracey Tee on her Heart Opening Radical Reinvention

Magic mushrooms? Psychedelics? Microdosing?  Drugs once considered countercultural are being reinvented as part of the plant medicine movement.  As Tracey Tee, the founder of “Moms on Mushrooms” (M.O.M) explains, it’s perhaps the best ‘assistant’ you can find when it comes to your unique healing and personal growth. In a world overwhelmed by information and distractions, Tracy helps women forge a new path to reconnect with their hearts and true selves through the power of psychedelics.

 

Join Erin in this eye-opening conversation with Tracy. 

Aug 17, 2023

How to be 'Brave-ish' with Lisa Niver

Despite traveling to 102 countries and scuba-diving with shark countless times, writer and travel expert Lisa Niver wouldn’t call herself “brave”. She prefers “brave-ish”. As Lisa explains in her memoir Brave-ish: One Breakup, Six Continents and Feeling Fearless After Fifty, cultivating bravery is like planting seeds—it takes patience and practice to see it grow. Years later, the fruits of those seeds have led Lisa on an incredible journey of self-discovery, adventure, and transformation. 

 

In this captivating episode, Lisa reminds us that it’s never too late to live our own "Brave-ish" life, explore the world, and create the life we dream of.

Aug 10, 2023

Leaving a Life you Love to Save Yourself with Author Kelly McMasters

What do you do when you are faced with the choice between leaving a life you love or leaving yourself behind? These are the questions that essayist, professor, and mother Kelly McMasters explores in her memoir The Leaving Season, as she details her remarkable journey from being a sophisticated writer in New York City to a rural mom of two in Pennsylvania.

 

Join us as Kelly discusses her remarkable journey to define her unique relationship to motherhood, find liberation in divorce, and discover the beauty that comes with choosing yourself and unapologetic happiness.

July 27, 2023

Dating Coach Bela Gandhi Helps You Avoid Dumpster Fire Relationships

What does it mean to find “the lid to your pot?” Bela Gandhi, founder of Smart Dating Academy, shares her journey from business school to unlocking her gift for igniting meaningful connections. From her work with countless clients, Bela delivers insights on love, attachment, and embracing the best version of ourselves on the journey to finding lasting happiness. 

Bela takes the reins as your love life's personal trainer in this transformational conversation with Erin. They delve deep into relationships, from the evolutionary roots of our romantic preferences, to the impact of family dynamics on dating patterns, and so much more.

July 20, 2023

Investigating the Desire to be Desired with Writer Melissa Febos 

Melissa Febos has always had a penchant for operating outside of convention. Whether it was her eagerness to try all of the drugs she was warned about in her school’s D.A.R.E program or deciding to self-homeschool herself at 16, she knew she was different from her peers.  

 

Now as a bestselling author and associate professor, Melissa joins us to explore the complexities of desire, empowerment, and self-discovery, drawing from her experiences as a professional dominatrix and her recovery from heroin addiction.

July 13, 2023

15 Things That Make A Relationship Hot 

What are the things that make a romantic relationship Hotter Than Ever? Sure there's chemistry and physical attraction (that's a given!) but there are so many other factors that make for a healthy, sexy, open connection between two conscious adults.

 

Erin shares her opinion on how to turn up the heat!

July 6, 2023

Trusting Yourself with Your Own Dreams and Desires with Sybil Amuti

What is the fabric of your spirit?  Podcaster and brand strategist and Sybil Amuti not only answers questions like these, but inspires us to ask them of ourselves.

 

In this episode, we’re investigating how we show up for the world and what it takes to embrace our truest, most colorful selves. Sybil’s infectious charm, inspiring wisdom and expansive podcast community are proof of the miracles that happen when we harness the power of voice–whether that’s our own, the voices of others, or even the voice of God.

 

June 29, 2023

Dating and App Culture: Options, Acronyms, and WTF is Compersion?

Romance has gone through a big operating system update recently. Now that Erin’s been released from captivity (aka her long marriage), she’s gi